PLANNING FOR THE FOG
Stand Up to Your Obstacles and Do Something About Them, You Will Find that They Haven’t Half the Strength You Thought They Have.
Norman Vincent Peale
Obstacles.
Just when you thought you were getting somewhere, along comes a blip on the screen, a change in the plan, or an unforeseen disaster that veers you off course.
“Oh well, better luck next time…”
Many Monday morning diets have been blown a Tuesday goodbye kiss due to obstacles in the road.
Many well-intended plans, begun with enthusiasm and desire, lie dead in the path of those dreaded roadblocks.
What’s a person to do? You can’t plan for obstacles. Right? They just happen, they’re a random event. Luck of the draw.
“Oh well, better luck next time…”
I’ll let you in on a secret I have in my little bag of life’s lessons. You won’t have better luck next time. There’s another obstacle coming. The only thing that will make a difference next time is how prepared you are to deal with it.
The remarkable Florence Chadwick had already made a place for herself in history by being the first woman to swim the English Channel when she decided to swim from Catalina Island to the California coast. This was a woman of proven persistence, goal-setting ability and driven excellence. There was every reason to believe she would meet her next challenge.
On the 4th of July in 1952, as millions watched at home on national television and with family and crew on a boat by her side, Florence began her swim. The water was icy cold. Sharks hovered around her, kept at bay by rifle shots fired from her crew. A deep, murky fog enveloped the water, enveloping Florence in confusion.
Cheers and cries of support rang out from her family and the crew in the boats above, urging her to carry on, but all Florence could focus on was the fog that blinded her path. Defeated, she asked to be taken out of the water. It was the first time she had ever quit.
Later, from the boat, Florence was dismayed to learn that she had given up only 1/2 mile from the shore of victory. When interviewed by a reporter, she told him that it wasn’t fatigue or cold water that had stopped her, but simply that she had lost sight of the vision in her mind, and had been blinded by the fog.
Two months later, Florence Chadwick tried again. She was not lucky enough to have clear skies and visibility. The same obstacle of blinding fog also returned to challenge her once more. This time, Florence was prepared. She had rehearsed in her mind what the result would look like. She imagined the fog and how she would swim through it and keep her mind firmly focused on the goal. As she swam, she reminded herself that the fog did not change the result, the shoreline was there whether she could see it or not. She just had to remain faithful to continue swimming and she would reach it.
This time Florence did reach the shore. Despite the fog, she swam there in a straight path and broke the all-time speed record set before her by the men by two full hours!
Obstacles come. Always. Wearing one disguise or another, they step in our path to block our goals.
Without a clear and carefully defined vision, they are hard to beat. Like a child’s monster in the closet, they seem overwhelming, frightening, and larger than life.
With rehearsed planning and focused vision, they can be reduced to a minor inconvenience, a lesson to be learned, or an opportunity to help us on our way.
The largest obstacle we face is our own defeated attitudes.
When she was in kindergarten, my sister wrote a story:
I went into a cave and there was a bear! I tried to get out of the window but there wasn’t any. I tried to get out the door but the bear was blocking it. So, I sat down.
the end
The teacher wrote with her red pen, “And then what???”
This story was one of my first lessons to be added to the Life’s Little Lessons bag.
Life Lesson: Never Just Sit Down When The Obstacle Comes.
And then what? What comes next? How can we create a different outcome? What will we do differently next time?
When you approach life from the angle that an obstacle is coming, so plan ahead, it isn’t the same as negative thinking. It’s being prepared. It’s making sure you have what you need in your suitcase to complete your journey. Thinking through in your mind, what types of things and experiences could possibly occur along the way and what you might need to do to stay focused and on plan.
It’s the constructive use of “What if?” instead of using it to worry and defeat us before we start.
It looks like this:
Finish these sentences for your goals and plans:
1. The end result of my goal looks like…..
2. The steps I need to take are…..
3. Possible obstacles that could stop me from reaching my goals are…
4. My plan for diffusing those obstacles is…..
5. The language I will use and the way it will look when I overcome the obstacles is…
Then, the more time you spend visualizing and seeing yourself succeeding in your mind, and overcoming those obstacles, actually rehearsing in your mind the language you would use, and actions that you would take to overcome those obstacles, the smaller and smaller those obstacles will be when they arrive. Your subconscious will already be engaged and know what to do.
Life happens. You won’t be able to predict and plan for everything. Some things are just learning experiences. Even an accomplished swimmer like Florence hadn’t planned for the fog the first time through. But she didn’t let it keep her out of the game either. She was back within a few months, mentally stronger, armed with knowledge and a better plan.
She won. So can you.
Obstacles are coming, are you planning ahead?